First the pain, then the waiting, then the rising- Glennon Doyle
Dearest Wee Girl–
I haven’t written to you in so very, very long. I think, mostly, because I’ve been caught up in the twirl of life itself. Reaching outwards, reaching in; teaching in the dirt and rain; watching you learn how to tie your shoes; laughing…crying…overcoming.
And there have been so many freaking times over the past almost year where I have wanted to write to you, but I just couldn’t. Couldn’t figure out how to put into words the magic and the triumph and the sheer exhaustion or even the life lessons of what’s been going on.
Sometimes (often) life doesn’t translate into words, as much as we want it to. Sometimes (often) we have to cross our fingers and toes and hope that we remember, when we happen upon a familiar situation, that this isn’t our first rodeo.
And while every challenge we face in life is not necessarily the same, there are a few things that will always, inevitably and without question, help:
Water– drink lots of it. Cry buckets of it. Drink more to compensate for crying buckets. Shower or bath or swim in a lake. Repeat frequently.
Sleep – or at least rest. Or even restful things, like rereading your most favourite book over and over again.
Declutter – give away the things that clutter up your life so you can see what’s truly important.
Turn outward – remember others are there. Volunteer. Take action.
Turn inward – remember you’ve got this. This isn’t your first rodeo.
And perhaps most importantly, remember this:
First the pain, then the waiting, then the rising.
The pain won’t break you. Neither will the waiting. But they might feel like they are going to, especially the waiting, as you think over and over “for gosh sakes’…I’m done growing! I’m ready for the good stuff.”
Except…Rome wasn’t built in a day. Every butterfly waits in a cocoon for a seemingly endless amount of time.
Extraordinary takes time
You’ve got this– we all do